When we first dated my wife was super sexy. Lingerie didn't make her that way, but she wore very sexy lingerie. Over the years she has moved to comfortable things. Some of her bras are sexy and others just functional. Same throughout her clothes. As she moved up in the world she dressed more conservative as did the men. What I wear is my choice as it is with her. Now that we are totally retired she and I wear what most of the other women in our lifestyle do. We no longer have to impress or wear "office" style clothes. As for lingerie I do wear sexier bras, but I'm smaller than our women friends by a cup or more. I've been teased during our martini hour if I wasn't a C but a double D or more I'd buy other bras. I'm sure they are right.