hi stephanie,
i dont trust FB at all, dont even trust my phone, so like you my wife knows but im still half in the closet.

one thing you may want to try is one of the big events like keystone : or maybe a local support venue.
i have started a pinterest account and it is private and if you saw mine the word DIVA will come to mind.
i helps keep my interests of feminine taste organized, makeup dupes, fashion, hobbies and such.

i am however out, support groups, been to keystone, volunteer at a LGBT club and such, just cant leave the house dressed, some support groups have an area where you may flip gender and change, unfortunately most dont.

i have a separate girl e.mail and use it with people i have actually met and correspond by phone and texts with some here. FB light perhaps.....

hope this can help with your situation, you look fairly young and convincing in your avatar and would most likely enjoy getting out into the wild....