If you ever figure out why, let me know.
Its interesting to say "need to pass"....its less constructive than saying "need to present as a woman" or "need to present as myself"... expressing your "femme side" in cd'ing or your female self in trans people is the absolute key to living with gender dysphoria whether you pass or not.. and the idea of passing is about other people and not yourself
i cant lie...i wanted to pass what im saying is a healthier thought would be i want to express my true gender...looking my best is just part of it... and this may be interesting to some...once i transitioned and began to pass, i started dressing much more basically and rarely wear anything but jeans and sweats, very little makeup etc... i guess im just not "girly" at all but its more important to be myself .. and transitioning gave me the freedom to do that, and yes so did passing...it made it much more comfortable
so to me passing is a quality of life thing...and our need is about expressing gender, passing or not
many many cd's are in the closet and dress happily at home or privately
if you need to go out and meet people as you express your gender , thats a pretty good sign that you are doing more than "just cd'ing", and if you feel that need but dont go out, in my experience you will likely suffer it until you do go out
