Hi Julie, Very nice story. You seem to have a very level perspective about your crossdressing - I think that will serve you well in your marital relations. I think you are on the right path in terms of more communication to alleviate fears before her imagination gets the best of her.
On the question of acceptance, yes it’s a totally different thing when it comes to a loved one, and even more complicated for a spouse. I think the reason wives have trouble is the same reason we have trouble and spend so many years in the closet. Our spouse is an extension of us. So in some sense, your crossdressing is a reflection on her, her choice in a man. Now I don’t think this is an appropriate way of thinking, and I’ll bet your wife would agree, but we are talking about emotions here, which often have little to do with our rational thoughts. Rational thoughts are the ones that tell her support the tg community. Emotions are about how she feels she is going to be perceived by friends and family. And yes the point about society putting less value to women is part of that. Even the most fervent feminist has had that ingrained in them since birth and has to consciously fight those feelings. I guess my point is that your wife, like mine who is not an active participant, is still a participant. The problem is that she has not had the same number of years you have had to come to terms with it. To understand and work through the emotions and subtle stereotypes. Regular communication will really help her in these regard. Luckily she has a levelheaded husband to help her through the maze.
I hope the best for both of you,
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