Have been living like this for many years, but I have come to the end of my tether, my wife used to be accepting, but gradually went to DADT, she knows I do it, but doesn't want to see it. I so enjoying dressing up again, and finding it difficult to switch it off when she decides to stay with me, we have 2 homes that we share. Going to have to have a talk with her soon, we dont have a sex life and haven't for the past 10 years, her decision which I respect. Not sure how to approach this, but will stay calm, I know she checks my stuff as I know how I put it away. lets see how it goes, but have to break this cycle, otherwise will go insane.