Hi Jennifer,
With so little information in your profile it is difficult to offer advice. So many of the responses assume you are based in North America. There are websites that offer the opportunity to connect with people who are willing to help you fulfill a fantasy, but they are generally geographically specific, it is no use being directed to a UK based "contact" site if you are in the US or vice versa.
From your introduction post, and indeed your only post for more than 12 years, you stated: "I am a bi cd and enjoy that other side of me when dressed only, as I am happily married for 32 years and wish to stay that way."
What is true? Did you "enjoy the other side .. when dressed only" or "have suppressed it until now". Whatever, if you are still happily married, now 44 years, don't throw that away unless your wife is onboard with helping you fulfill the fantasy.