Jean,
I still don't know how to talk about it, and it's not like it was ever mentioned in my marriage. Some of the things I did say were, "It's not just a want. It's a need" and "It's just who I am". I could go on. I'm sure everybody gets the drift. Combine statements like this with my apparent obsession with feminization that was just unending, the obvious conclusion is that I was transitioning. It had come up, and when it did I always said I wasn't, but just denying it is different from having an ongoing dialog. It might not have helped in my case. Thing is, I did not transition and had no intention of transitioning. Whatever I did or said before the divorce was not sufficient to convince her of that. She was 1000% convinced that as soon as the kids were out of the house I was transitioning. She was further convinced by "our" therapist (long story) who told her (and me) that I was certainly TS, and another counselor who advised her to get out of the marriage. She believed them over me. It was easier for her to talk to them than to me.
