Age-appropriate dressing

[Helen_Highwater]

Dressing age appropriate will only increase the delay of getting clocked by a couple of seconds; the vast majority of us are going to get clocked anyway. We're rarely fooling anyone, other than the 1% of us who truly can pass.

Lexi,

There's flaws in your thinking IMHO. Wear a clown suit in a busy street and 90% will notice you. Dress like the rest and there's no reason for folks to look your way. Yes some will see and read you. Most won't have a reason to look so don't.

Pretty much no one 'blends in'. It's a euphemism for passing, and few are able to accomplish that. Or maybe you're thinking that if you're far enough away that others might not notice that you're actually a male, as quickly? Well at that distance, they wouldn't notice you weren't a woman if you were wearing fancier clothes, either.

Thinking that we're suddenly unnoticable because we're not wearing more flamboyant female attire is a myth brought on by the pink fog.

I can't think of anyone who posts who advocates blending over passing suggesting that in doing so we become unnoticeable. It is however a sliding scale. At one end there's those who are so badly presented (and I'm excluding MAIDs from this) it's immediately obvious that they're male. This will go right through to those rare few who are 99.9% passable. Choosing what you wear plays a significant part in reaching the higher end of the scale. It perhaps more importantly impacts upon just how folks interact with you. Dress like a 17 year old while in your sixties, and with the figure of a sixty year old, isn't going to win you any admirers. To the contrary.

Too all of you who have somehow managed to convince yourself that you want to look like Tootsie or Mrs. Doubtfire, I congratulate you. I wish I could do it. But I'm unable to feel good at all, while looking like that. And feeling good is why I crossdress in the first place.

Mrs Doubtfire or Tootsie are styles you'll never see me emulate. I wear clothes that fit well, look stylish, colour co-ordinate and are suited to a woman who's taken time to present well while out and about without being overly dressed. And yes I feel good when I look in the mirror and take that out on the road.