Yes, communication is key...but spouses may not be brutally honest with each other to avoid hurting the other’s feelings.
This site is terrific (the best IMO) for bringing us fellow CD’s together to support different things we’re going through. Which is awesome, but besides a few GG’s who are also on the site to share the SO’s perspective, we don’t really know unfiltered thoughts/responses to our CD actions.
Since we can’t access the SO’s part of this site, where do you go for ‘oppositon’ research?
I imagine there’s threads somewhere that wives are weighing in on the first time their husband shaved his chest/legs (OMG!) or seeing him dressed for the first time or I found photos! Etc.
Maybe it’s not helpful to read for risk it would keep us more closeted (I.e. suppressing ourselves in order not to hurt the ones we love), but only reading this site creates an inherent bias in perspective if you know what I mean.
Thoughts? Thanks for your advice as always!