First off I’d like to start by saying thank you all for your responses and advise it helped me tremoundiously.

So we set up to talk this past weekend knowing we would have time away we could sit without interruption. We had a date night which was awesome ( not dressed just “normal”) it was great but towards end of night I seen the opportunity to talk wasn’t happening so I got a little annoyed but I held it in reminded myself to let her bring it up.

Which she did the next morning during break fast. I started by explaining how much love I have for her. Expressed how I had guilt For keeping this from her and the fact I didn’t know or want to know this before we got married.

That relived her enough that she could relax and open up a bit. She expressed her worries and fears which were what you hear most of time.
“You want to leave me”
“You want to be a female”

But then there were some that made me believe she actually did think about it and realize this could be a reality ( in our first talk) cause then it got into
“ are the kids gonna see you dressed ?
“ how would it work ? “ etc etc

All very exceptable and I just opened up to her I reiterated that she is my love, and I want her. I also explained how dressing made me feel which helped her relise as of now that’s not the case I also made it very clear that anything could happen in the future but I reassured her by confessing that I will be completely transparent in my urges and desires. And that I am going to live within her boundaries. But was able to get her to see that there is no option of nothing and hiding it.
It was a very great conversation. She was very supportive and accepting.

We didn’t lay any rules or boundaries yet but I don’t plan on doing anything u till we have that convo, or if I do I’ll just ask.

As of now she is very accepting and loving. Didn’t neccisarrily believe this, but is realizing it is. Slow and steady like all you all have said. Ope. And honest and just be vulnerable.

We had a good chat it was deep, heart felt open honest connecting and bonding.

I don’t have all my answers still so many questions for her but I will stick to my road I have started slowly and surly.

I will definitely take your advise Chelsea and not bring it up for a while I had already planned on it and I know that’s my challenge I always want closure and I talk to much. But progress

So thank all of you for your advise and as of now everything is great.