Unfortunately I'm in a similar position and after being on my own for 6 years, the turmoil, loss and pain are still there. Even being on hormones hasn't diminished these feelings. But your wife would have eventually figured it out, like mine did and that's when life changed. Wish I could figure this out and offer help, but no. This forum is a great place and I do drive 90 miles to my resources, it is worth the drive. Keep looking for a therapist or someone that can help you, All the best Patty.
