Gretchen,
That small but important point of coughing and sneezing was something I brought up faily recently . My year or so has been a huge revelation , so well summed up in self acceptance and and the belief I can be Teresa .
As for the point about tactfully questioning the SAs . The two SAs in the curtain department approached the subject today by telling me how wonderful it was that I was putting my home together , obviously the implication being it's not what most men are capable of . They went on to say I was just a lovely customer to deal with and wished more could be as polite and pleasant . The SA in the furniture department was more direct, as I had to borrow a fabric sample to choose my curtains , when I returned it she said , " Come on girl let us know when it's all done and we'll come for a cup of tea and wear something a little more flashy !" That SA was also so surprised that the lady that accompanied me was my sister in law .
