WOW! Judgmental much? Despite your claims that you have "...no problems with those who do it differently than I." , your language is very aggressive. Your use of terms such as 'role playing', and 'disguise', convey a message that you are disdainful of other crossdressers, and that your dressing is somehow 'purer'. Except this little bit gives it away...
I bet if I made a comment about people "playing at dressing up at home", there would be some ruffled feathers around here.
You "simply want to be who you are", and that's fine. So do the rest of the people on this forum, and in the world. But you can do so without looking down your nose at others who do things differently than you, yeah?