What a great story... It confirms that it open communication is so important. We have to remember that not only have we been programmed into gender roles and presentation, but women have been programed into those same expectations of how we should conform. It really does take a great deal of open communication to work through the barriers of social norms. I have learned that including my wife in extending my boundaries is more mutually beneficial than surprising her unexpectedly. In those situations it's really not a good idea to ask for forgiveness instead of permission. If when expanding the boundaries, I start with what do you think about, it gives her an opportunity to adjust or offer helpful input. Sometimes she may even say she's not ready for that. After all this is not about me... it's a journey that we are on together. If I include her and respect her feelings, I will have a participatory partner for the rest of my life. I really am blessed to have such an amazing woman too!
Caylee
