When I first started going out, my immediate aim was to be perceived as a cisgender woman. I always wore skirts, and often short ones that showed off my nice legs. And always wore high heels, to make my legs look even better. Pants were strictly part of my ?male uniform?, and never a part of my female presentation. Very much a ?girly girl?.
It was nearly two years before I bought some cute feminine jeans and slacks, and some feminine sneakers and low sandals. And started bringing ?plan b? low heeled sandals or sneakers in the car, so if the heels got to be too much, I could switch to more sensible shoes. And I was aware by then that most women, straight or lesbian, only wore heels for special occasions, like a wedding, graduation, formal party or posh charity event. Very few cisgender ladies wore anything but sneakers or low sandals, and most were amazed at how well I walk and even dance in heels.
I am full time female now, and my wardrobe includes almost as many feminine slacks/pants, shorts and jeans as it does skirts. A fair mix of heels, boots, shoes, and sandals, with me tending less and less to wear the dramatic high heels. Much more like the mix of clothes I see other ladies wear from day to day. I still have a reputation among my lesbian friends of being hyper-feminine, to the extent that if I don?t wear a skirt to a dance, they ask if I am feeling unwell... LoL...
Over the last year I have gotten much more comfortable presenting fully female, but in casual jeans and a t-shirt and sandals or sneakers or low boots. Friends have even commented on my being more comfortable with ?simply being myself?.
