Juliette,
A little like walking on eggshells , who is going to be the first to bring up the question again and who is avoiding it ? My coming out was at your age was difficult , I have to admit I cried like I never had before or since , it really was like a floodgate opening , a huge weight lifted off my shoulders . I'd actually told someone , I'd admitted for the first time what I was . She was OK for about a couple of weeks but then the DADT wall went up and I felt worse than ever , the only person that knew had rejected me . It's along story which I've told before but looking back that was the moment when we possibly should have called it a day with our marriage , the damage was done , all that had gone before appeared lost .
As for ordering clothing items , maybe take care , I promised my wife it wouldn't cost a fortune , she was always careful what she spent on herself so it would have been very selfish of me to spend money on something she would never approve of and certainly didn't want to see me in them .
Twenty years on and I'm in a great place now and very happy .
