The best way how to reveal to your partner?

[cdkateinboston]

From a GG my advice do not play games if it is a fetish then sure say that.If it is more then be honest.

I have to echo this. I know the outcome differs for every girl here, but my partner and I had a conversation early on about the "skeletons in the closet" and I mentioned crossdressing as one. That absolutely didn't make showing her a photo of Katie dressed up, painting my nails in front of her, or moving my clothing style in the femme direction ANY easier for me, but I think it did make it easier for her. I had to be honest with how dressing was in my life, and not just for her but for me as well. Because if I had structured it around a lie, or a facsimile of the truth, I wouldn't be happy if she was accepting of that lie because I wouldnt be dressing for the reasons I want to. I'm still discovering what dressing means to me and its place in my life, but I happen to have a fully supportive and amazing partner who is going through this with me.

[wendy]

I am basing this from my own personal experience, and most of it echoes many people's responses already.

Be straight up and honest. For me, this was the scary part because I did not know how she would react. She was supportive but had questions like "are you gay ?", "are you going to transition to a woman ?", I answered all honestly. at the end, she was not happy about me hiding Wendy from her and wished I brought it up to her much sooner, other than that she has been very supportive. As well, she already had a hunch I was dressing (some of her clothes were stretched, it would take me at least 25 min to pick her up from evening courses when we only live 5 min away from the University, ...). When they say a woman's intuition is bang on, it is correct, somehow they just know.