Quote Originally Posted by pamela7 View Post
FYI I'm on nearly 3 years of estradiol and 2.5 of anti-androgen HRT, and it has made all the difference, and I've been 24/7 female clothing & presentation since 5 years, and I'm still in the UK queue for GRS.

We are all unique. Some folks need a brutally honest and challenging therapist, but others have had so much challenge, they do need mostly affirmation and support. There is no single magic unicorn of a therapist or a route to transitioning.
I was the kind that needed brutally honest. My first therapist was the "affirmation and support kind" but that proved a disaster. My second one was, if not "brutally" honest, was at least clear and honest.

Here's the kicker, last week my previous therapist called me for news. When I told her I quit transition and why, she said "I wasn't convinced that transition was right for you". I wish I'd heard it brutally and honestly before starting! I might still have a salvageable marriage. I was incensed when she told me that.

The good side of trying though, in spite of the damage it has done, is now I know for sure it isn't for me.