Hi Chloe,
I'm sorry that you are struggling.
This is the part of your post that I don't understand:
I doubt that you want her to say that you should stop dressing. And yes, she probably doesn't want to say anything negative for fear of resentment toward her. It sounds like maybe she is trying to accommodate your desire to dress, even though she doesn't like it. Maybe your therapist could shed some light on that. Obviously you know that she "hates it" but would you stop if she wanted you to? That's a huge request. And does she have to like it for you to be happy? There are many couples that just pursue their own interests and the partner doesn't really have to "like" it. I don't have any advice but I feel there is perhaps a conflict with the fact that you KNOW she doesn't like it. I suppose there is always the compromise but I have no idea what that would be. Only you and your wife can work that out so that you both can be happy.The other problem is my wife wont tell me not to dress but she really hates it. ..... and: She hates all of it...but wont tell me to stop for fear of resentment towards her.
