Star, I grew up in New York City. My wife and I moved back to her home town. I still consider myself a New Yorker. I have tossed aside those old notions concerning cross dressing. It took a long time. In the 1950's and 1960's anything other than totally straight heterosexual was deemed to be deviant by society.
Now I am totally comfortable with myself. If I was not married circumstances would be a lot different. The issue is not with me. It is with my wife. She, also, is a product of the 1950's and 1960's. She has these notions of what a man must be. I am envious, not of the unattached cross dressers on this site, but of those who have an accepting wife. I wonder if a woman considers herself to be a failure if she hooks a husband who turns out to be a cross dresser.