#2 for sure....I am constantly trying to be closer to being feminine as that is how I was raised.
It really wasn't till I was in the Navy, did I really know what it was like to be masculine.
The comfort does goes away when having to be a husband, but I do it as not to be selfish....and I can cheat.
I can get away with a lot of feminine thing in male mode as I conditioned my spouse to perceive these things in a neutral light.
I continue to broaden my spouses acceptance and understanding on this mellow and caring husband and when finished, if I live long enough....
....I can be laid to rest in a rose colored casket in a chiffon ballgown, painted toes and fingers holding my white communion rosary, a white pearl necklace/bracelette, and a glittering pair of open toed high heel pumps!