Lias Marie,
Your friend made the decision that was right for her and her family , no one can say if it's right or wrong . From my own perspective living with that compromise for an extended period wasn't possible . Often the fears of what we lose don't always happen but it is a balancing act between your happiness and that of others . You saw it differently and risked far more , OK I accept we do pay a price for trying to be true to ourselves but as you mention the alternative is far worse and possibly permanent , I know because I almost went there .
