You say two way street? Sounds like your wife has to cater to you. She was upset and pacing . She has the right to be herself just as you have the right to be yourself. She should never be in the position where she feels like she can not.
Maybe just come out to everyone , I dunno but your wife seems very accepting so you need to be accepting of her as well.
As far as burning everything ....that’s ridiculous. I think you are venting.... but get real please.
Many here would be over the moon happy having an accepting wife ....you need to apologize to her.
She should not feel like she cannot be herself in her own house.
