Hi Samantha,
Ah, maybe a kindred spirit.
I fit your description fairly well. I have a beard almost all of the time, and yet I love to wear my bras, dresses, stockings, wig, etc. I am clearly capable of feeling fem (my personal version I suppose) in my male body. I think this is a very good thing. This is not a compromise, it is my preference.
I realize that my appearance causes many people an uncomfortable level of cognitive dissonance. I prefer to respect that, so I generally attempt to keep my dressing private. Once again this is my choice.
Over all I am pretty happy living like I am, but no one really knows what tomorrow may bring.
Thanks for opening this thread.
Vale