Elbee, in my experience the ones who say “ok but why” are the ones dressed “to blend” (and usually a bit dumpy - I’m prepared for the negative comments about that!) .
I'll leave the negative comments to all the women (trans and cis) whom you just labeled as "dumpy". You know, the one's who make up the majority of women who don't go to the supermarket in a dress and heels.
Calling bigotry an "opinion" is like calling arsenic a "flavor".
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.