Great thread, and we should see some really useful insight.
Parents.
I lied because they were not LGBT friendly, and I was always told that trans people were disgusting. I would always deny wearing the clothes I had taken because I didn't want the arguments, to upset them, to be thrown out etc.
Wife
I didn't lie, but I equally didn't make any effort to tell her the whole story. I didn't tell her because I was ashamed of who I am, I was unsure of who I am, I didn't want to go out dressed, and I didn't want to transition. Add in that I hadn't really dressed since I'd been having chemo, and it was the best part of 6 years before I would dress - 4 years into our relationship. I honestly thought that the chemo and brain haemorrhage I had may have changed me permanently.
