Larissa, my reading of this is that your wife does love you and wants to support you, but is currently having some issues with your crossdressing. However, she may not want to tell you this for fear of hurting your feelings. This is an immense act of kindness on her part, but it may mean she's not being completely candid with you about how she feels.

If you can somehow talk with her in a way that makes her "feel safe" to express her feelings more openly, that would be a great advantage. Otherwise you'll just need to look critically at how much your dressing may be impinging on her life and her image of you.

Now I too was lucky enough to marry a very accepting wife who has been thoroughly supportive and downright enjoyed "Lori," She thinks it's fun, and we've "had fun" in the bedroom too. And I can't recall her ever voicing any resentment of "Lori"--except for one occasion when she made a snippy remark about how much time I was spending experimenting with home-made "squishy plastic boobs"! However, let's not forget that "VARIETY is the spice of life," as the saying goes! And more to the point, my wife, like yours, did marry a MAN! She still wants to keep HIM around most of the time.

So being mathematically minded, my question is "How MUCH of the time is that MAN still around for her. to keep her happy and satisfied?"

Obviously the credit for my wife's acceptance goes to her, for which I've been profoundly grateful. But I guess I've been lucky in mySELF as well, in not feeling the need to be "Lori" more than part of the time. So the vast majority of the time I'm still "Larry" to my wife. Naturally I recognize that "your mileage, like that of others, may be different" in this respect.

There are three aspects to this. The first is what proportion of the time we spend "dressed." In my case it's fairly limited, though I "need" it just the same for all that. To be honest, I'm lazy about doing makeup and all that, otherwise I might dress fully more often, but what the heck! Anyway most of the time my wife is seeing "Larry," the man she married, not Lori, and she knows he's not going to go away. So you might ask yourself how much time you spend as Larissa in front of your wife, and whether it's "too much" for her.

The second aspect--in my case anyway--is how much time you spend in "mixed mode." Now in my case. some of the time I'll just toss on a skirt and panties, with a cute little slip underneath, and walk around the house like that, with nothing else on. Maybe I'll put on earrings, a feminine wristwatch, and women's sandals. I'm just putting on clothing the way any woman might do, not bothering with the rest, except that I'm missing a bra and blouse and whatnot. So "who am I" at those times? In my own mind I'm definitely enjoying feeling "Lori-ish." But to my wife? As far as she can tell from my male appearance, I might be just "Larry in a skirt." So it doesn't seem to bother her at all, as long as "her Larry," the man she married, is visibly still there for her. At least, that's never been a problem for us--but I wouldn't be so sure your own wife would feel the same.

The third aspect may be a crucial one. How much time are you "completely male" with no hint of "Larissa"? In my case I've been "completely Larry" for the large majority of the time. So being "Lori" is a "part-time" thing. My wife has seen the "man" she married most of the time.

No doubt it helps that I'm perfectly comfortable and happy in a male identity, though I enjoy being Lori as well. This may not be the case for everyone. I don't for instance "underdress" in panties or other women's underwear beneath male clothing. Frankly, I don't want to. I'd rather be "completely Larry" or "completely Lori" at any given time--at least to the extent of not "mixing" clothing--since one seems to spoil the enjoyment of the other. I don't go to bed in a nightgown, unless I've been "dressed" the evening before. (I sleep naked.) So my wife has mostly continued seeing me as "male" all day, every day.

If this is not true for you, it might be a problem for your wife. It may not be enough to be "the man she married" just some of the time. If you "underdress" in panties every day, or sleep in nightgowns, or have painted toenails, or other constant reminders of your "feminine side" that are there most of the time in spite of your male self, that could possibly be irritating your wife into feeling that you're "no longer the man she married." It's an idea to look at anyway. How much of the time are you "wholly male" in her eyes?