I was happy with all the positive and supportive comments I receive for my journey but what I wanted was actually this, see a discussion and acknowledgments about my suspect that many crossdressers lie, so after a while they live a lie.
I remember when a teenager my dad told me, some people lie and to cover that lie another seven lies is needed, so do the arithmetic potential operation and after a while the liar himself/herself doesn't know what is really the true.
To talk about embellishments sounds nice and softening a life situation that's not healthy.
To lie being a crossdresser not telling the SO is a dangerous reality because soon we end feeling comfortable with the lie of our life but believe me, it's just a trick that you did to yourself. You're shooting on your foot because to live lying is impossible and when your loved one's find the truth the result is catastrophic.
That's the purpose of this thread.
I honestly believe that any cds, here if not all of them, are in some small or others in a big grade transgender or transexual and from the moment they start lying to support a deep desire or need of being seen as woman start lying, should be enough to look for help, go to a therapist and decide what do I need to do to make my lies a reality.....
Many can feel comfortable living as a woman from time to time, when have a chance, may be once a month, two times a year, for Halloween, even once a week, and can live the rest of their life like honest men. But when they start lying to cover up things can be dangerous and that's the reason why most of the marriages of crossdressers and transgender people end on divorce, not because a man can't go through transition but just because of had being lying to the people they love more....
We need to show to the world that we are real, honest people, normal but different people but at the end of the day, can be fathers, family people and productive people but not a bunch of liars....
Mho.
Devi San Martin
