So, while I know that this is a dicey subject for some of my friends on here, I wanted to open a thread about the kinds of men who are usually attracted to CDs. Now, I know that many of you are happily hetero and happily committed to wonderful relationships. However, it is a fact that most of us who go out into the real world dressed must often contend with interactions and advances from interested and/or curious men. This can be useful background information for any CD who goes out into the real world.
In my experience of interacting with men over the years, I find that there are three most common types who are attracted to CDs.
First, there's the deeply closeted CD who doesn't have the ability, opportunity, or courage to be a CD and therefore lives vicariously through CDs that he may encounter or chase after. These are usually the most boring and obnoxious guys, because they are persistent yet unexciting, and they want to tell you all about how they, too, love to wear panties or nylons or whatever, etc. No thanks.
Second, there's the guy who is open-minded and genuinely finds you attractive. These are the unicorns. They are far and few between, but they are definitely out there. Usually, he is an older man who is much more secure about his identity and orientation at this point in his life. I have met and dated some fantastic gentlemen who fit into this category over the years.
Third, there's the perv who sees a CD as a walking sex toy and just wants to have sex. They are turned on the minute they see you and would want nothing more than to use you for their gratification RIGHT NOW. These guys can range from amusing to annoying to quite dangerous. I have been approached by this type at all hours of the day, in vanilla settings like a pharmacy or bank, and while I was dressed modestly and fully blending in. They have great CD radar! Unfortunately, these can be the most common type - motivated and emboldened by all the stereotypes about hyper-sexualized and promiscuous CDs and transwomen in the endless porn universe.
Talk amongst yourselves, ladies...
, I've not had chance to encounter men. In fact it seems quite the opposite, I seem to encounter women way more easily than I would in normal attire, which I feel, like Sandi, is a bonus prize. However, I can think of three occasions when gay men have taken a liking to me when I've been in bars, two of those times when I've been suited up and handsome after work. If I go into a bar alone, I'm usually open to conversation with anyone who finds me interesting and can be overtly charming if I so choose. In all cases, I misread their interest and they started to become a nuisance and I was forced in the end to give a straight "back off!". The time that sticks in my mind the most was in Copenhagen. After the event, the man's companion told me he had been drinking with him for years and he'd never for a moment seen any sign of homosexuality! That same evening in the same bar, I then met a young women who invited me on to another bar with her. I showed her photos of me in girly things. At that time, I'd never gone out en femme; I could do much better now, thanks to this forum. Anyway, she wanted to drink shots and unfortunately, I got very drunk. Well, to cut a long story short, I misread her signs as well and she ended up telling me to back off! I remain ashamed of that incident to this day. I also distinctly remember arriving at the airport on the train after sleeping right through my stop and feeling extremely ill.
Originally Posted by MonicaPVD
