Most of us who have divulged our secret to an SO (or been caught in the act) have been asked the following:
Are you gay?
Do you want to be a woman?
Are you going to transition?
With all due respect to our GG, gay and/or trans members, these questions (although understandable in the beginning of a reveal) can be very disheartening to many straight CDers when the same questions are repeated over and over from the same SO.
Having said that, I fully appreciate the impact and confusion that crossdressing brings into a relationship...
Are you gay?
CD: No. Clothing doesn't affect sexual orientation
SO: Straight men don't wear women's clothing. The clothes you wear are feminine and often revealing. You know I don't like it. Who are you wearing it for?
Do you want to be a woman?
CD: No. I'm happy being a man. It's just clothing
SO: Then why do you have breast forms, butt/hip padding, false lashes/nails, wigs, makeup and shapewear?
Are you going to transition?
CD: No. This is all there is to it
SO: It started with panties. Then more lingerie. Then dresses, heels, wigs, and makeup. Then you wanted to start going out while dressed. It doesn't seem like there's an end. How does it end?
The above interactions are merely my own thoughts and speculations based on the posts I have read on this site. In my own personal experience, my dressing was limited to pantyhose; in my case the above SO responses never actually happened; however, I was still constantly asked these 3 questions with great frequency by my ex-wife. I'm a man who wears pantyhose, therefore I must be gay, want to be a woman, or want to eventually transition. No amount of reassurance on my part would ever provide my ex-wife with any lasting comfort or belief.
It's a safe bet that regardless of the extent of CDing (one specific item of women's clothing, underdressing in lingerie, or dressing fully en femme), our SOs will continue to ask these 3 questions occasionally or frequently. Of course there will be exceptions to any rule, but it appears that the 3 questions will likely be asked time and time again.