Jacy, thank you so much for your input and point of view, it seems that no matter how much we try to be as "womanly", we are clearly missing something when it comes to the discussion or conversation.
I'll also recognize that it's probably as in her DNA as the CDing seems to be in ours. It appears that a certain percentage of the population finds CDing or TG or whatever part of the spectrum their activities are found in, it is something that they "have" to do and while there are many who can control it there are also many who cannot. When we hear of an SO who is accepting and supportive we remember that they seem to be the small minority. To the Nature vs Nurture argument I'll answer "yes", the questions all get answered by individuals, with individual experiences, goals and levels of acceptance.
Any possible hints or advice as to what the average CD (as if there was such a thing!) might do to build the acceptance and sharing that so many of us desire? I'm considering suggesting a bit of a bargain; asking for some time alone as well as possible participation in return for whatever she wants, even if that includes antiquing or craft shows or even a night at a Kathy Griffin show (another joke, "Hall Pass" reference), reasonable ask?
Thanks, looking forward to your point of view on this!
Jamie
