I do a lot of the laundry. My wife has learned to bite her tongue if she is washing clothes and comes across some of my items. Trashing each other's possessions is strictly out of bounds, and if my wife did that to me, we would have words, and I would insist on marriage counseling, maybe leave. It's not so much the value of the possessions as it is a matter of mutual respect. Each partner has some attributes or behaviors that the other sees as flaws, and it's important to figure out what can be tolerated and what is a deal-breaker. Ideally, this is done before the proposal, but our brains are in a fog during courtship thanks to evolution's need to propagate the species. I wish you peace and happiness -- together.
