I finally found a brand of pants that fit, St. John's Bay, relaxed fit straight leg. With my wife's permission I bought four pairs. I wore them for the first time the other day. I went to PT, then we drove up to the lake house, so I was out in public for the first time with my wife while wearing women's clothes. It's not much, just the pants, but it's a start. I also brought a dress with us and wore it around her for the first time, inside only. We ate dinner then sat down to watch TV. She went to the kitchen to get a drink, came back to the living room and said, "Your toes don't match your dress."
No major break though, but like the title says, another small step.