Finally got my head around it

[Sometimes Steffi]

So I'm a trust but verify kind of person. By that I mean trust your therapist, but think about what she said and try to independently determine if what she said is true.

Specifically, write down everything that makes you believe that you are a transgender woman. And then, write down everything that might indicate that you're not a transgender woman. Maybe you're "just a crossdresser", non-binary, gender fluid, or some other variation.

I have been to several "gender therapists", some whom were more knowledgeable than others. On the first meeting with one, at the end of our 50 minutes, she said, "You are gay. But don't worry about it. It's OK to be gay." I didn't think that she knew me well enough to come to a conclusion that I was gay after on 50 minutes. Plus, I never did feel gay, except when I was a teenager and thought that if I liked to dress in women's clothes that I must be gay. As a teenager, the only vocabulary I had to assign to myself way gay. "Lesbian" wasn't even in my vocabulary.

But I knew what gay meant, that I was attracted to men. So, the next day when I went to the gym, I looked around the locker room to see if there were any men that I was attracted to. There were none. It was just so icky. Honestly, there were some men that I would have liked to be, muscles, chiseled face, great smile, etc. But, there were none that I wanted to be with (intimately). Therefore, not gay. Therapist was wrong.

But, to (mis)quote my therapist, if you are a transgender woman, don't worry about it. It's OK to be transgender." And I'm sure that many girls here are willing and able to give you some advice, me included. I've helped launch several girls here into womanhood. I just met one of those girls a couple of weeks ago and she told me how instrumental I was in helping her launch into womanhood. She's full time now.