There are several issues here, all related, and all can be solved one way or another by full disclosure. I know you are out with your wife so there is no need to sneak around -thankfully!. It looks like you will be entering into some new areas with this trip, so the only way to know if you are crossing over any boundaries you are not aware of is by disclosing all and everything you intend in an upfront manner, as you have here. If she disagrees with anything, you'll know right away, there will be no secrets. If all goes well you'll be able to go to your event with a clear mind and enjoy it thoroughly. If you stumble across any barriers you'll know that too and be able to deal with them beforehand rather than after, much more effective I think.
