One thing that never seems to come up when we're discussing disclosure early on is what happens when you disclose to someone who runs for the hills. You've now armed somebody with knowledge that can ruin you. It seems likely that they'd tell a lot of people. I think that throwing out that kind of information-that-becomes-ammunition as a test for compatibility... admirable, maybe, but as with most relationship issues we face, it's fraught with real danger.
