Many wives have an image of us as their mate and the man they married. They don't want that image shattered as it can be construed as reflecting negatively on them. But that does not necessarily mean they do not at least tolerate that part of their husband if it has a positive effect on his behavior. It is all back to behavior and not appearance. But for many of us at least some of the feminine appearance is important in addition to the internal driver that creates the behavior. For us the two need to be connected in some way, even if it is only small hints. In my mind it is really quite understandable in a marital situation even though out in the wilds of society where relationships and images usually don't go that deep there can be more support of who you are in the larger picture. Not much investment in the contact between you and them.
And women are usually much more accepting of this appearance because they read as a man supporting them in a personal way. Many women have to put up with a lot of crap from many men trying to dominate them as if it is still the way it was 150 years ago. It is refreshing to see a man that is not afraid to show his feminine side or, if that be the case, a deeper feminine identity. Of course in the medical field they are only focused on your body functions, but it is nice when they give recognition to who you really are in the complete person. They also want to make you comfortable in your whole person.
