I'm back - with good news

[NancyJ]

Larissa, Yes, we need to talk to our partners. When we hesitate to do so, we can make up all kinds of things that we imagine they are thinking about us. Happy for the two of you! I find it interesting that you make a point to say that you are not trans. Perhaps you have no interest in transitioning, but your description of your interests puts you somewhere on the continuum (IMO). Do you think that your depression was related to either 1) not dressing, or 2) imagining that your wife was no longer accepting and so your dressing days were over. If either were true, to me, that puts you on the spectrum. But, the important thing of course is that the two of you talked! Nancy

[Di]

Larissa, Yes, we need to talk to our partners. When we hesitate to do so, we can make up all kinds of things that we imagine they are thinking about us. Happy for the two of you! I find it interesting that you make a point to say that you are not trans. Perhaps you have no interest in transitioning, but your description of your interests puts you somewhere on the continuum (IMO). Do you think that your depression was related to either 1) not dressing, or 2) imagining that your wife was no longer accepting and so your dressing days were over. If either were true, to me, that puts you on the spectrum. But, the important thing of course is that the two of you talked! Nancy

Please everyone read what NancyJ wrote! So many times everyday we read my wife thinks this or that …..I would say most times you have it all wrong. Please talk to your loved ones.

Larissa, I appreciate you telling us the great news! It probably will help many .
I am very happy for you both and this post made my day.

[Raychel]

We are all taught from a very young age that crossdressing is wrong.
As we get older we find out that maybe not so much. So if there is any
sort of disconnect or issue in the relationship with your accepting partner,
We automatically assume it is the crossdressing. But there are so many
other reason that could be causing the problems. Yet we assume this is the
case and draw back into a cave. It is definitely much better to talk with your
partner and find out what is really going on. So glad you had the talk and all worked out well