I wear a utility quit quite a bit. I see it as quite the opposite as crossdressing. I have never gone into a ladies room wearing a kilt, only when crossdressed and people resenting as a women. Interestingly, I have had more negative comments from mouth breathers when wearing a kilt than when crossdressed.Originally Posted by Jazzmin
Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".
1. People have the right to dress how they like, as long as they don't violate public decency rules.
2. How a person dresses says a lot about that person and zero about anyone else. A man in a skirt and a trans person are 1000% different things.
3. Bigots are bigots. They need someone to pick on and currently trans people are the latest whipping boys and girls. The way to stop bigots is to allow individuals to dress as they choose, because after all, IT IS ONLY CLOTHES, AND CLOTHES HAVE NO GENDER.
4. Tolerance for me, but none for thee.
5. If someone wants to "dress like a hooker", then we shouldn't be sneering at them, because we are not the judges of what is proper or not, because otherwise you're as bad as the bigots.
I'm Sun-Dee at Kandi's Land; read about my outings here:
https://www.kandis-land.com/author/dee/
By "dressed as a hooker" I meant PG-13 attire, just to be clear. The actual limit is what the law forbids.
Last edited by DianeT; 03-06-2023 at 12:46 AM.
The problem here on this site and this thread is the same as it is out in Vanilla Land. People judge! Whether or not we want to, we do!
The reason I rarely wear masks out to T events is because dressers freak out the same as Muggles do!
I can't tell u how many of my T friends have said, "U don't need a mask." I tell them, "Yeah? Well, u go out without a wig and makeup and see how u feel!"
And, when a newly out of the closet CD.comer met me and our T crowd for dinner? Some were openly displeased, even embarrassed that she wore no wig or makeup!
So, "Live and Let Live", or, "Do as I say, not as I do!"
Last edited by docrobbysherry; 03-06-2023 at 11:20 AM.
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
well I Guess in some respects we feel what we feel..but, as a crossdresser whose main goal is to approximate the appearance of a natal woman as best I can , I sometimes see other cross/trans women who don't. I see it, I note it, but I certainly would never presume to comment on it. Hey, You Do You, Sister.
There are hundreds if millions, if not billions of people in this world who DON'T want to live and let live. They want to live the way that THEY want to live, and YOU live as they think you should. Having been rudely disappointed in how the world has remained so screwed up since I grew up in the 1960's believing that everything would get better if we all just gave peace a chance, nothing of the sort has happened, and the violence against our own citizens in my own country (U.S.A.) has increased because some people insist that others do as they want them to.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
Sometimes I take the doors and top off the Jeep and drive around with the wind in my hair. Is that somehow damaging to the lives of bikers who also have the wind in their hair?
How then is a man with the courage to wear a skirt in public damaging to someone who is transitioning? Seems like apples and oranges to me.
My kids used to wear these ridiculous Tripp pants, baggy oversized monstrosities with zippers and chains and all kinds of bling hanging from them. So what, at least the waists were fitted right and they didn't fall down in the convenience store!
I see men wearing clothes that I think are ugly. Same with women. Or shirts with political or religious comments that I disagree with. Should I have the right to judge them because their fashion sense or opinions differs from mine? Live and let live, and more power to the guys and gals that are braver than me to wear what you want!!
-Mods, I don't believe this qualifies as "back and forth", but do what you must if you disagree. I promise not to comment on this thread again.
The reality of this is, society has customs. They vary a bit by country and religion, but they are customs none the less. When people violate those customs, they will stand out and other people will notice and may talk or complain. Some of the customs relate to clothing. In the western world, men are expected to wear pants, not skirts or dresses. Women can wear either.
When we violate these customs, we can expect to draw attention to ourselves and we can expect negative comments and reactions.
It's unrealistic to think that complaining in a private Internet forum will change this.
Krisi
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