Nancy and others,
This is such a profound and important topic. Particularly in this era where gender identity has become so politicized. What does it mean to be a woman? I don't know but I do know that I am not one and will never be one, even if I may look a lot like one. I, too, used to wish that I was one, and lament the fact that I wasn't. Fortunately, I outgrew that era and have come to terms with my reality. To that end, I gave up on chasing the "pass" standard and just make an effort to look the best possible without trying to force mimic behavior that is not a part of who I am. Surprisingly, the outcome of being liberated from the "pass" standard is that people almost universally treat me as a woman, with dignity and respect.
