Thanks Rhonda for making me think about this. Great question,when does male mode become female? Thinking about the attraction (that may become arousal) even though I'm not in female mode, it is a more feminine feeling, (like carefully putting on lotion or washing our legs). My autosexual point is that I'm the only one present and the only one I'm thinking about or may be experiencing arousal about in that moment, just me. And not dressed as either gender at that moment, personally, it's a very nonbinary experience.