Hey y'all!
Well, it seems that more people than just Karen at the bar that I was frequenting in Tupelo had a problem with me using the ladies' room. I had made a post on Facebook a while back, (notice I'm NOT posting a link to Facebook), explaining that I'm thinking of quitting CD'ing, (I'm not now) and why. This was one of the replies that I got on that post. I'm posting this verbatim, but omitting some of what this person said, (she's a GG), because she mentions religion.....
"Sorry to say but she is not the only one there that has a problem with it. Many many patrons there have gone to the owner. I was in the restroom one night while you were in the stall next to me. I respect your choice of wanting to be a woman. Although I do not respect a male in the women?s room or a female in the male?s room. I have heard many of the men there say if it happens again with their wives/ girlfriends in there they would take care of it. Please be careful. I am so sorry for what you have been through in life that makes you hurt. Do what you feel you need to in life none of my business. I enjoyed talking with you and you seem like such a sweet gentle person. My boyfriend even bought you a drink with us. It?s really simple?if you have a penis you belong in a men?s restroom?if you have a vagina you should use the ladies room. Just because we choose to dress differently / think differently doesn?t change that no matter how our society tries to twist it. Just please be careful. I have no malice in my heart." - Author will remain nameless here.
This was my reply to her.....
Thank you for that. Honestly, I had no idea that anyone else had a problem with it, no one except for the woman that I mentioned in my OP has said anything to me. Also, I had no idea that anyone had gone to the owner, cause neither he nor any of the other staff have said anything to me about it. Even some of the female bartenders were in the ladies' room while I was in there and they didn't say anything, which is why I figured no one else had problem with it. Also, I had no idea that you were in the stall next to me one time, I don't know who is, I don't really pay attention to that. You're right, I am a sweet and gentle person, one of the nicest people that you will ever meet and I don't intend harm on anyone for any reason. I do wanna say that I'm not gay, I don't identify as being part of the LGBTQ+ community and I don't wanna be a woman full-time. Right now, I'm relaxing in my truck, (I'm a truck driver) on a long break and I'm not cross-dressed. I don't do that while I'm on the road anyway. LOL However, I am not an unreasonable person and I completely understand where you, plus where everyone else is coming from. I was home from being on the road from Monday until Thursday morning and I went to Holland's, as myself, (as in not cross-dressed), because I knew people had an issue with me going to the ladies' room. I went there Tuesday night for karaoke and while I had a good time, it sucked that I wasn't CD'd, but I just don't wanna make anyone uncomfortable and I sure don't wanna end up in the hospital. So of course while I was there Tuesday night, I utilized the men's room when I needed to do my business, cause I SURE won't go into the men's room while CD'd! LOL Of course, the karaoke DJs as well as the bartenders recognized me, so I had to explain to them why I wasn't CD'd. They did say, and I quote: "Forget them and what they think! You do you". And I was just like, "Ok, cool". However, since of course when you sit at a bar and have several drinks, you're gonna need to use the restroom! LOL Even though there is NO law in MS prohibiting men identifying as women from using the ladies' room, I could still get my butt beat for it, if so, it would be assault against me and the ones who would assault me would be the ones going to jail, NOT me..... HOWEVER, with all of this said, y'all will NEVER see Kimberly at that bar ever again. For those who wanted her gone, well, they succeeded and you can tell them that next time you go there and I just might not go there again at all, whether I'm CD'd or not because I wanna find a place where I can hang out at as Kimberly and no one would have a problem with it. I'm glad that you have no malice in your heart, I don't either but obviously, some do. I take it some of the guys there wanted to beat me up either just for being there CD'd because they're haters, or because I was in the women's room with their women, or both. But anyway, I probably won't be going to Holland's again.
So yeah, I'm gonna have to look for a new place to hang out, someplace where I'll be accepted as Kimberly and not have to worry about getting beat up and where I can use the women's facilities without fear of that either.