Sounds like her "A real woman" comments were designed to keep you male in your clothing.
All the truly feminine things she would downplay and that would keep you looking more like a guy for her.
Since you are not under her "power of suggestion" any longer, Just Be You.
Not every woman wears a dress every day. Not every woman wears stockings all the time. Not every woman wears makeup, or even needs it.
What you wear and how it makes you feel is most important.
Be you.
