Robin,
My question is, do you know where you want to that it to? I'm 99% certain that I'll never seek to go full time even if I was in less of a DADT situation. I know I'd like greater freedom to dress but as it stands I don't do too badly so I'm careful to not rock the boat so to speak.
Perhaps, if you know what your limits would be, it would be a good idea to lay them out. Let your SO know that you have, if indeed you do, your own limits beyond which you're not looking to travel. This may calm any fears she may have.
