My wife felt the same about my attention to her clothing and appearance when I came out to her.
I explained that it wasn't that I wasn't paying attention to her and her attire it's that I was walking a fine line trying to show attention, but not TOO MUCH attention that might give away the fact I too love feminine attire. It was difficult to be appreciative of her choices and sometimes critical when I wanted so much to be able to openly express my feelings.
After discussing all this she began to understand it wasn't a new found interest, but a release of what had been bottled up for so long.
