Alainia,
Your post is very thoughtful and in-depth.
Most women are looking for a man who is well rounded. If they cross dress and they have other interests, that is a plus. If they cross dress and just want a girlfriend and/or wife as an accessory to their crossdressing, then - it's a no go. Honesty in all things is also a plus.
No woman is going put in a dating profile that they are looking for a man with a secret life.
