Pretty much zero tolerance here also, at least with respect to what she sees.Originally Posted by Debbie Denier
I can go out dressed as long as I don't leave the house dressed or drive through the neighborhood dressed. I've gotten good at changing in the car and public bathrooms. I can also go to the Keystone Conference for all girl four days and nights, as long as I pack my bags in secret.
I also have self-imposed "No Fly Zones" to minimize the chances of running into someone we both know.
Debs, my dress limits are based on boundaries defined between my wife and I. They are different in full nines mode where my wife doesn't see me and in MIAD mode where she does. And these boundaries may evolve in the future but that's a decision we would make together. It's possible that some wives allow more and some allow less but that doesn't concern me. We are in a good place my wife and I, and I want to keep it that way. If I had an advice, don't listen too much to what other CDers may be allowed to do or not to do, focus on your couple and if something is worrying you make sure you discuss it with your wife.
The boundaries that I have are actually stricter than what my wife is comfortable with.
My wife would be ok with our adult children. I'm not; I don't see a benefit. We're not at a point (yet) where they might just pop in unexpectedly. If that becomes reality, then we'll have to have a discussion. If it doesn't, I don't see there is a need to know, and certainly there's no benefit to them knowing. I'm never going to dress around them. Well, at least not observably and intentionally.
My wife would be ok with me being seen in town. She doesn't care too much what other people think. That said, she agrees it could cause problems with my job, and therefore it's probably not a good idea until we retire. She is ok with me being in public away from our town, and I have been...if only a little bit.
My wife is ok with me dressing as much as I want around the home. When our children are not around, I do dress about 80-90% of the time. The first time that I had the opportunity to dress as much as I want (temporary empty nesters), I dressed near 100% of the time at home for the better part of three weeks. My wife was fine with that.
My wife is ok with the neighbors seeing; she doesn't think there'd ever be a problem. I have ventured outside of the house dressed, but only on darker nights.
She's ok with me shaving my legs. I keep my lower legs (knees down) shaved all the time. We haven't talked about piercing, but she'd probably be ok with that (I don't have much interest). Same goes for makeup. I don't have a wig and want to change that. She's a little perplexed about that. I just want to get to the point of being 100%, completely, as much femme as possible and see what the net result is.
My wife is supportive and we go out together. The very reasonable limit is, it can't take over my life -- she married a guy and wants to keep it that way. So she's perfectly happy with me being Sherry. fully dressed, as long as it's a once-in-a-while thing. That being said, I started wearing panties daily and threw away my male underwear almost two years ago. She's fine with that.
I too am one of the lucky ones. Wife isn?t thrilled with it but accepts me for the gender bender I am.
No real limitations but she did express some disappointment after I sported a g string at a pool party at the paradise conference.😳
My wife supports me....there's no set limits as such but if something doesn't look right she says so. Make-up is no issue and she'll offer advice on how to apply it. She wasn't keen on the cheap wig I bought to try but in all honestly neither was I. She doesn't want me to go out in public.....its for her eyes only....I'm happy with that.
The only limits I have are ones placed on myself. Those limits or guardrails fluctuate on a routine basis. The only agreed limit is one for both of us. Nothing she does or I do can hurt our income stream. otherwise. The rest is fair game.
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I briefly had a couple of weird limits; she had a fit when she first saw my toe ring for example. But those limits very soon passed. She warns me (usually) if someone is coming over so I can decide if I want to change, but she doesn't make me. She's also made it clear that if I want to go out to eat with her dressed however, I can, although she knows I won't so I'm not sure if she'd REALLY be ok with it.
She told me in the beginning that she'd stay with me even if I transitioned. I don't quite believe her, but it's a moot point since I have no desire whatsoever to transition.
Guess I'm one of the lucky ones
My wife allows me to wear panties and women's satin pajamas every day. She has seen me fully dressed with makeup and jewelry when she came home early one day, but she generally doesn't want to see me fully dressed. She knows I do it when she is out of the house.
"When you come to a fork in the road, Take it!" - Yogi Berra
I guess I did!
As my wife daily encourages my crossdressing my limits are 3 male underwear (she is weekly throwing away 1 or 2 pairs of the off limits ones that I keep insisting in wearing). She keeps remembering me that wearing male boxers is not what she signed for when we married!
It’s funny that part of the thrill was the hiding part.
My wife has absolutely zero tolerance, and that's being generous. If I could give a minus figure, then I would.
My limits are almost the same as Debs. No ear piercing, and not growing my hair out. I have additional limits from when my first wife was alive. Never in front of the children, both now in their 40's, and both aware, never to use any of her stuff, much easier with my second wife because of the size difference, and finally to always blend in. Otherwise its open court.
Hi Debs, We have a Very workable DA/DT, My
Wife Pierced my Ears for me, >Orchid**O
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Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~...
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My wife's rules are: Don't dress at home if we have guest or
if the kids are here and don't get caught by anyone we know.
Hi Girls
I guess my wife has set me slightly different limits to most here.
Rule number 1: Strictly no male clothes to be worn in the home
Rule number 2: Legs must always be on display in either pantyhose or nylons or very occasionally skin tight leather leggings.
Rule number 3: Hair and makeup applied everyday.
Rule number 4: Obey the rules.
Amy x
We started with limits, no bras, no wigs, and all the outfits were to be club wear. Now we don't have many limits, I have several wigs but none that are realistic. We seemed to add to what was ok and even crossed the taboo lines with breast forms and a bra or 2. It was small steps but each with both of us in agreement.
There are limits? Kidding. When I dress I tend to go all out. I hate my look when dressed and no makeup. Wife has seen me fully dressed many times but I do hold back many times because I do not want to rock the boat with her.
Have have everything I want for now. Pierced ears, no long hair, (too bad), shaved body, growing breasts, painted pedicure at the salon. Almost a C cup now.
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With my now Ex Wife, nothing was allowed.
With my current GF, wear what I want, just don't do it all the time and dress appropriately for the occasion.
For many years, it was a strict DADT. Recently we have agreed that I can openly wear nightgowns and panties. I can go further with in the house skirts, tops and dresses. No wigs, makeup or shoes.
I am ok with this
Amy, yours limits may become mine in the future… lol
We just haven’t agreed on that, but she is insisting in no male attire at home.
Charlotte, Sorry to hear about the divorce. I know you were struggling with that for a while.
1. Only at home.
2. No one else needs to know.
3. No showing your cami's, or panties. Your under garments are to be covered up outside of the home front. I do get reminded if my cami show when we are out I public. I keep my shirts tucked in, no "plumbers crack" either
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Last edited by Gillian Gigs; 05-30-2024 at 09:04 AM. Reason: added a better explanation
No family or friends are to learn of my cross dressing. I dress at home whenever I want. I know she's not a fan of seeing me with makeup and a wig, so I generally hold off on those until she's gone to bed. She accepts/tolerates but is not supportive.
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The only limits is to not dress in front of the children which we both agree on
My wife has not set limits but I am sure that they are there. Not sure what she is accepting of and not. Since or oldest came out as transgender she has only said that she is afraid I want to transition also. She has said to stay away from front room windows in the past.
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