If someone were to see a pretty girl kissing another pretty girl, they would think Lesbian.Originally Posted by Geena75
But why even worrying about labeling it.
As the line from the keynote song in the movie Casablanca says:
"You must remember this
A kiss is just a kiss, a sigh is just a sigh
The fundamental things apply"
If you close your eyes when you kiss, lips are just lips. Just hope that the lips are soft.
Very nice words Steffi
Thanks
Rose
I knew that most of the crossdressers were straight, contrary to prejudices, but I did not expect to find so few gays and bisexuals on this forum. Am I the only one currently in a relationship with a man and have dated mostly men?
Geena, no. If you're with someone who you know is a guy, and a kiss "happens", then you're ok with kissing a guy. If you're honestly fooled and believe he's a she, then that's different, at least until you learn the truth and what you decide to do next.
If you know and kiss anyway it's gay or bi. Nothing wrong with that of course if that's who you are, but I can guarantee that in my case that kiss will not ever "happen". Not enough beer in the world to make me even consider it.
Life is short
bi sexual here. I been with my gf now for 8 years now and only her. But when single it was 100 percent sex with a male
Straight as can be
I am definitely Bi.
Just another man in a dress
Add another 100% straight and monogamous response to the list.
I considered myself straight in my teens but it's my opinion that wearing lingerie to bed every night is what turned me bi-curious. The urges to want a boyfriend grew steadily and by the time I was 20, I was in a relationship with a guy (and still am!). I am still attracted to women but but I can't see myself ever wanting a relationship with a woman even in the event that things ended with my boyfriend. Nothing, and I mean nothing, beats the feeling of wearing romantic lingerie to bed for a guy to have intimacy which is why I love being with a guy. There's nothing like it.
Completely Straight. Never had any interest in being with another male. And married to the same woman for multiple decades now.,
No desire at all to be with a guy. Happily married to a semi-accepting wife for over 25 years now.
Jenn A --- nothing fancy, just me.
I agree with you Jessica! My sentiments exactly
Never explored far enough to really know. Lesbian in my head, which is not at all straight. Just be yourself and forget the labels, much simpler life that way.
I dunno to sum it up.
I love women and all the cool clothes they have an option to wear. Which is probably my main attraction to dressing. But separately I'm also interested in sex and all aspects of it. Dressing for me is sexual. Not having actual sex but feeling sexual/sexy. Now finding a woman that likes to dress up these days is rare, to find one who likes to dress specifically for sex is even harder. Add that to one that is actually interested in exploring the sexual world is even more rare and very very hard to find. So this is where my conflict arrises. First and foremost wearing the clothes is my main attraction (part because women dont) and then its only natural for me to want to take it the next level. Being the woman and acting the woman (sexually) appeals but I have never acted on it. Either with a male or with a CD I just dunno. If that makes me bi then so be it
Unfortunately these topics of dressing or sexual dreams (either with cis women or otherwise) are not allowed to be discussed as they are taboo and you get labelled a pervert or sexual deviant. Even the asking a woman to wear high heels is wrong these days let alone asking to wear them for sex. So i I'm resolved to dressing in private and dreaming lol
Emily xx
Once again, the definition of crossdressing has NOTHING to do with sexual orientation, no matter how many times you repeat that. There are female, gay, bi, and straight CDs. Also, tranvestism preceeds crossdressing, so you have that wrong also.
The statistics suggest that most male CDs are heterosexual, but not all.
To answer the question, I'm a straight male, but if the circumstances were to happen (like attending a sex party that I am unlikely to ever attend), I would probably consider engaging in sexual acts with a male, from curiosity and trying something new.
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You're not, I'm in that club also Alice! Isn't it great to be in a relationship with a guy?
I've had roughly equal numbers of male and female sexual partners, though my few serious relationships have been with women. I wouldn't rule out a serious relationship with a man, other than I'm currently married to the greatest woman I've ever known and don't see that ever changing!
I thought I was exclusively attracted to women.
But there were lots of caricatures in my head about men: dirty, hairy, with a rough and irritating skin, offensive, sometimes violent, and so on. I think this was a mixture of repression of my desire to men, and a consequence of the bullying I suffered from men since my early childhood. Also the fact that I wasn't happy as a man, and thought all men were equally unhappy with themselves. Who wants to be with someone unhappy!?
As I discovered and accepted my femininity, and as I understood that I did want a man to be attracted to the woman in me, because I don't really feel like a man, as I gained trust in myself and in my desires, as I learnt not to repress them anymore, I began to look at men with the eyes of a sexually active women, and to understand what women do like when they are near men.
Now I fully accept the way some men turn me on, but it is also a very different way of turning me on than women do...
Cheers, have a nice time with whoever you desire
Rose
Last edited by RoseReve; 09-04-2024 at 07:04 AM.
RoseReve's response recalled a (suppressed) memory.
I was starting with a new therapist, and I told her in the first session that I "crossdressed".
At the end of the first session, she said, "You are gay. But don't worry about it. It's OK to be gay."
This comment was very unprofessional on so many levels. She shouldn't have told me, she should have led me in that direction and discover it myself. Plus, it was a pretty bold declaration to make after knowing me for only 50 minutes.
Aa an adult, I was more open to being gay. As a teenager, there's no way that I would calmly accept that "diagnosis". Well, at that time I went to the gym regularly, three times a week. I changed in the locker room each time. I decided it was a perfect environment to fact check my gayness. So, I surreptitiously checked out the guys is various states of undress. There were a few that I wanted to be (tall, chiseled jaw, muscular body), but there were now that I wanted to "be with". Yuck.
As an engineer, I used the scientific method, and it worked for me. No guys. Subsequently, I changed my view. I was attracted to guys, but only if they were wearing a dress and dressed to the nines.
I did keep seeing this therapist weekly for several months. I always arrived at her office en male, but I changed to en femme before my appointment. I got to try out a number of different styles from demure librarian, to office girl, to a mini-skirted teenager. She was always excited to see me dressed and even complimented me on my outfit a few times. We even talked about makeup, particular eyeliner, which she wore quite heavily. Once I told her that she could apply eye liner to me. She say that she could, but it would cross the professional line.
Absolutely Steffi, telling you "You are gay" was totally out of place, farfetched, unprofessional, what you want...I'm studying these matters with the desire some day to help other people, and it seems to go against all the aims of a therapy to express something so blunt.
Or she opted for a kind of warped strategy to get you to explore your feelings...But I don't think it's the best option anyway!
Cheers,
Rose
Accepting my love for men saved my life, I?m the happiest girl now
I consider myself to be straight. I am attracted to women & not attracted to men. When out & about, a pretty woman gets my attention. Guys, I never notice.
That said, there are some sexual acts that I like & have done with men. It is only those acts that I am interested in & there is no other attraction. If someone wants to call this bisexual, I would not argue, but without any attraction to men, I call myself straight.
I realized around the age of 20 that I really wanted to be with a guy and it's been the BEST decision I ever made. Having a boyfriend is truly incredible and I couldn't be happier myself!Accepting my love for men saved my life, I?m the happiest girl now
It's all on a scale, isn't it?
What you describe is (I think) heteroromantic bisexual which is kind of where I lean - have only had proper relationships with women but very much enjoy having sex with men.
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