I had a robotic full prostatectomy 2 years ago. The incontinence lasted about 6 months until it was mostly resolved and gradually got better during that time. I still have some very minor leakage on some days but a lot of the incontinence and ED problems are age dependent. Generally the older you are , I was 69 at the time , the longer recovery takes and to what degree. My results were fairly average for my age group. I have ED but at my age that's not as important as for younger men. The urologist who did my surgery was a specialist in treating ED including penile implants but I wasn't interested.
What I do recommend and it was very helpful is seeing a physiotherapist who specializes in pelvic floor exercises. I did exercises prior to my surgery and afterwards and it makes a big difference in regaining continence.
As for effects on my crossdressing there have been no changes whatsoever. I don't have gender dysphoria and I can't say I feel any more feminine on Danielle days than before. BTW, even with ED pleasurable orgasms are still possible.
