Out of no-where

[Helen_Highwater]

A few days ago I had a little home alone time, just enough to do a couple of quick try-ons. I?d bought a brown and cream pull on blouse with elbow length sleeves which I paired with a faux leather burgundy pencil skirt and tan high heels. Hip pads and forms just to give things their proper shaping.

Before I?d walked a few steps towards the spare bedroom to look in the full-length mirror I was suddenly aware of having a feeling of this being ?me?. It was as if I was in my right place. Comfortable in who I am. I knew that if circumstances permitted, I could spend my life presenting this way.

This doesn?t make me trans, I know I?ll never go full time. Other life demands mean I share my time between drab and femme me. It was just in that moment I felt just how comfortable I?ve become in presenting enfemme and how natural it was for me to be dressed. I?ve had moments like this before, they come from no-where and once you?ve realised they?re happening fade away.

I suppose some might call it being in the zone or a zen moment. Whatever you want to call it I love it when it happens.

[Maria 60]

It sounds like you are happy and satisfied where you are with your situation and it just feels right. I had a situation like that a while ago. I only had very dressy dresses and once dressed even though I felt relaxed dressed it just seamed like I was in a going out dress code. My wife a while back gave up the remainder of her skirts and tops most of those were the ones she would wear in casual situations. Once I put on a jean skirt and a casual top for some reason I had this totally relaxed feeling and I wish we could bottle this feeling and get it when we want it. For some reason whenever I wear her more casual clothes I feel myself and comfortable. I know your feeling and when it happens try to gasp it as long as you can. I believe it's a sign that we are happy in our situation. Cheers

[Natalie5004]

I know exactly how you feel.

[alwayshave]

Helen, I feel the same way when I dress. I am just so comfortable in a dress.

[tifftg]

I like that zone of zen framing. Yes when it is felt while in my feminine attire it is so comforting.

[JulieC]

I see myself as more male than female, but I too think I could spend the rest of my life without men's clothes at all. It just feels right. I don't think of myself as trans, but more like along the spectrum of trans. I'm comfortable being a guy, and enjoy being a guy for much of my life. But, if I had to choose... definitely dressing as a woman for the remainder of my life would be my choice. I don't want to choose, mind you. But if I had to...

[April Rose]

Me too, also, as well. Lately I'm in androgynous women's clothes far more often than men's.

[PaulaJeanette]

As I sit here underdressed in panties, waist nipper, and bra with breast forms, I feels relaxed and comfy, and enjoying the moment's sensations. Is that what you other ladies are describing. Like JulieC, Paula is more male than female but simply love wearing lingerie and feeling this sense of peace that dressing brings. As many of us have found, this sense of femininity is a gift to relish and not something I'd want to choose and thereby bring disruption to my life and family. But for the moment, it is wonderful!

[Fiona_44]

I love when those moments occur Helen. There is a definite sensation of being in the right place, a very comfortable, appropriate place.

[Aroara Xanthemae]

I believe we all have these moments and that helps us keep dressing I am currently in a pink satin dress with layers and two petticoats and I am comfortable in this store and happy that I could go on and do my daily things dressed so comfortably I would like to go outside and shop and go to lunch and do daily things like that dressed in such a beautiful comfortable dress

[Taylor Dame]

Helen, I have those comfortable moments, too. I can't explain them, but it just feels right.

[docrobbysherry]

Your post hilites how different I am from most other dressers here, Helen.

The woman I want to see in my mirror doesn't resemble the male me in any way, shape, or form!

Only then, no matter how physically uncomfortable or contrived my presentation, am I happy with my appearance!

[NancySue]

Hi Helen, I totally understand. I?m one of us who has an accepting wife. I?m free to wear whatever I want, whenever I want. And I do. I can?t explain the extreme sense of pleasure and comfort I feel as I dress each morning, slipping on my lingerie, especially my nylons on my smooth, lotioned legs.

[BethanyCross]

I get that feeling when I have my nails done. It just feels right for them to look long and pretty. I rarely get to wear them that way for much more than a day though.

[GracieRose]

When I look in the mirror while dressed, I see me. When I look in the mirror in guy mode, the mirror is just a tool to see if my hair, tie, collar etc. is in the right place. After I saw Gracie look back at me from a mirror, I realized that I never saw me in the mirror before that. The feeling was different and I didn't know what it was like to see yourself until Gracie looked back at me in a mirror. I assume that most people recognize themselves as the person looking back at them from the mirror. I only realized that I had only seen a stranger in the mirror after I saw Gracie. Hard to explain, but she is me, and he isn't.

[SaraLin]

I knew that if circumstances permitted, I could spend my life presenting this way.

Just a few days ago, my friend asked me if I could be Sara full time, would I?
With only a moment or two of thought, my answer was that IF I could, I definitely would, but that there are too many real-world factors stopping me.

He understood.
(gotta love that guy!)

[Kelli_cd]

"...enjoying the moment's sensations..."
For me, this is what it's all about. Pulling nylons up my freshly shaven legs. Putting on a pretty cami over my bra when I dress for work. Slipping into a chemise to go to sleep.